FROM SIMONE – I have been watching on British Television a series of documentaries commemorating 70 years of the British Blitz on the Second World War, when British cities were bombed for 5 years. They have re-created a small street with materials, building techniques, dressing and props exactly as you would have had at the time and their aim was to submit it to a series of bombs exactly like the ones from the time and measure with modern instruments the scale of destruction and terror people endured.
One thing really stood out for me in the whole experience. There was a prop, a bottle of milk, just like the ones that are still left by people’s doors by the milkman, sitting by one of the doors in Blitz Street, as they called it. They submitted the street to bombs with 50, 100, 500, 1000 tons of explosive and also the equivalent of a V-1 and V2 rockets but our bottle of milk was absolutely intact at the end of the experiment, except for a bit of the milk had poured out, just a bit.
If any material would survive such explosions you would have never thought it would have been glass. An experiment that was set out to prove the amount of horror people went through also proved another phenomenon of the Blitz, that just as this bottle proved, people are quite hard to break or give up and that anything is possible.
No pum intended, this week I was bombarded by insults and hate mail because I dared to mention I treated my son’s autism and I, myself , had recovered from autism. There is a new wave of, surprisingly enough, autistic people, that judge it is offensive to mention such words as cure, recovery, treatment, in relation to autism as they claim it is not a disease as such. They claim by mentioning these words we are implying that autism is something bad or wrong that needs to be corrected and all they want is for it to be accepted the way it is. I would like to take a minute to consider these thoughts through an Option Process perspective.
One of the principles that are very attractive for me from the Option Process is the notion that I can totally love what I have at the moment but still aspire to change it. I also find it the most difficult concept to explain, since it is so ingrained in our society that the word change carries the judgement that if I want to change something it’s because I dislike what I have at the moment. It’s in our language, when I say for example: “I’m not happy with this new job” I don’t mean I am sad, cry, sob, sob, I mean I want to change it. Now human beings love change. We are one of the most adaptable species on Earth, we love travelling and experiencing new things. If however we live by the notion that for acquiring change I therefore need to dislike my present situation, I imagine there’s a lot of unhappy people out there, for change is a constant factor in all our lives.
Change is a powerful event. In nature, whenever there is change, of seasons, of night and day, of tides, of atoms from a place to another, there’s a great amount of energy being produced and being dispersed. So no wonder that to experience change in our lives we would need too a great amount of energy. The tools we are used to employ in order to effect change, unhappiness, dissatisfaction, non acceptance, are very deprived of energy. Can you imagine yourself being unhappy and having loads of energy to jump around and go to the gym? Well that’s how you could perhaps change from a limp body to a toned one. Can you imagine yourself hating cooking then embarking in a total new healthy diet? Well that is how you would perhaps change your body from diseased to healthy, and we could go on. If on the other hand we used Energy, Excitement and Enthusiasm (Our 3E’s!) when pursuing change, in other words, happiness and excitement for the way my child is at the moment then I would have the energy necessary for my miracle, my change.
Looking through this perspective we are giving what this new current of autistic people are really asking for, acceptance and we are showing them that there is acceptance and change, but not only that, but that there is change through acceptance. If they claim, why put so much energy into something that it is not possible, or difficult, I would tell them of our bottle of milk, supposed to be fragile by everybody standards, but nonetheless stronger than brick or mortar, and I would say in your journey with your child, be a bottle of milk, casein-free perhaps, but be a bottle of milk, because you never know, everything is possible!