I had the opportunity to play with the most gorgeous 6 year old boy from Scotland this morning in The Son-Rise Program Intensive.
This boy was incredibly exclusive to begin with, busily arranging plastic letters, musical instruments and balls on top of the trampoline that we have in the playroom. During this time, he rarely looked at me and merely used me as a means to get things by trying to climb up me to get to items on the shelf.
After about 25 minutes of doing this, we went in the bathroom where he proceeded to pull me into the bathtub with him and wanted me to tickle him. It was amazing how connected he was during this activity, he was looking, giggling and pulling me toward him as he squealed with delight at the tickles.
I believe that being in the small, enclosed space of the bath was helpful for him and he was able to eliminate all stimulation happening outside the bathtub and focus in on me. The bathtub was the ultimate non-distracting environment.
When you are working with your special child, experiment with using a tent, play tunnel, blanket or curtain and see how connected your child is.