FROM ALISON: I was visiting another Son Rise Mum at the weekend and we were discussing the question: just how much Son Rise is enough. It seems that many of us give ourselves a hard time believing that we are not doing enough play room hours or that if we just did a little bit more that our child would make so much more progress etc. and then feeling guilty for all that we are not doing.
So, how do we define ‘enough’? There is no actually guideline as to how much constitutes enough – so we make it up. Often the way we define enough is that it is: just a little bit more than I am actually doing. But then if I do a little bit more, then weirdly enough that is still not enough either.
So why do we make it up to be just out of reach all the time. The reason is, because it serves us to do it like that, we use the discomfort that we create by believing we are not doing enough to motivate ourselves to do more. But there is another way. Suppose we decided that we are enough ourselves, that our best is enough and then ask ourselves what do I want to do today. If we make our want really BIG then fire our motivation from there. There is a quote I love from Antoine de Saint Exupery ” If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea”. We can do that for ourselves. Or maybe you have another way of deciding what is enough from a place of comfort. Please share so that we can all learn a more comfortable way to see ourselves. Love Alison