From Kate Wilde:
A tiny three year old boy in the smallest pair of jeans stares with a blank expression on his face at a wall. His hands lightly touching the back of his jeans. So still and silent as he stares at the wall. Beside him a Son-Rise Program facilitator stares at the wall her hands lightly touching the back of her jogging pants. So still and silent as she stares at the wall.
One minute goes by, neither move or speak.
Two minutes go by, neither move or speak.
Three minutes go by, neither move or speak.
Four minutes , Five minutes, Six and then Seven minutes go by.
Not a movement nor a word is created or shared.
Only the stare and the stillness unite the two.
On the eighth minute the tiny boy turns to the Son-Rise Program facilitator and Says “Change my diaper.”
The Son-Rise Program Facilitator breaks into smiles and cheers for this child’s beautiful communication, and being the super user friendly person that she is checks his diaper for him.
After this is done, the tiny boy goes back to staring at the wall, so still and silent as he stares. The Son-Rise program facilitator too goes back to stare – so still and silent as she joins this tiny boy.
One minute, two minutes, three minutes, four and then five minutes go by.
Not a movement or a word is shared.
Only the stare and the stillness unites the two.
On the sixth minute this tiny boy turns to the Son-Rise Program facilitator and says, ” dum dum dum something dum eat.”
The facilitator again full of smiles, delight and celebration for this communication in her super user friendly way runs to get this lovely boy something to eat. For the next 8 minutes they play an eat game together, this tiny boys hold the hand of the facilitator, allows himself to be picked up and kissed on the cheek and hand and says a 5 word clear sentence, “Give me something to eat.”
This interaction was initiated and lead by this tiny boy. When we allow our children to show us the way, when we give them the chance to tell us when they are ready for interaction the quality of how they participate and play with us is deeper. Their learning more substantial and sustained.
Let your children lead the way.